Authentic conversations evoke a rare quality of communication between you and others. They unclog the airwaves and establish the conditions for real relating!
One of the areas I specialize in is how to have authentic conversations at work and home. You may be asking yourself, what’s that about?
It’s learning to interact with courage while communicating your message so you come across with:
- Confidence
- Clarity and
- Ease!
Over the past twenty something years I have taught thousands in business and the private sector to engage with others by applying authentic self expression. Lawyers, doctors, dentists, business owners, leaders, managers and staff across a variety of industries have learned what it takes to express themselves authentically.
How authentic are your conversations at work? Do you know how to share what’s on your mind in a way that others can hear? Does speaking authentically guarantee that you will maintain the relationship? These and many other questions are addressed in my program and keynote. Being authentic requires that one build self awareness and courage. Authentic conversations are not for the fainthearted!
So, how authentic are your conversations at home? Can you speak authentically with compassion, rather than being intentionally brutal? Would you describe your home conversations as authentic? What criteria do you use to assess this? How would those closest to you describe your manner of communicating?
The degree of our own self awareness always determines the quality of our conversations. It is this rare quality of authentic relating that results in a deeper engagement and greater clarity that sets authentic conversations apart!
How masterful are you at expressing your voice authentically?
If this has captured your attention, contact me. I’d love to hear from you!
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Greetings, Deborah:
Your post got my attention for two reasons. The first is that my husband and I co-authored a book, almost exactly a year ago, titled Authentic Conversations (Berrett-Koehler, 2008) and we do a lot of work with clients and others around this issue. We are always delighted to see others who feel the same way about authenticity!
The second thing that got my attention was this statement: “Do you know how to share your truth while simultaneously maintaining the relationship?”
One of the difficult issues around authentic conversations from our point of view, especially if someone is making a conscious shift to authenticity, is that it could put the relationship at risk. If the goal is to maintain the relationship rather than be authentic and transparent, that could create a seriously difficult issue!
Of course, we also believe the truth as we know it should always be shared with goodwill and the spirit of collaboration. Based on our experience, unless people are willing to put a relationship at risk, it may inhibit their ability to be authentic.
As you mentioned, self-awareness about our intentions toward others and our commitment to being authentic is essential.
Thanks for your thoughtful post. I was glad to find it!
Hi Deborah,
Sounds like we have much in common. My partner Maren and I wrote a book called Authentic Conversations and we too deal with the inner dialogue. We frame as intentions and commitments. Good to see others out there doing this work too.
Our business website is http://www.henning-showkeir.com. The book website is above.
Keep up the good work. j
Dear Maren and Jamie I’m touched that you both took the time to comment on my blog titled ‘Authentic Conversations’. Congratulations on your book of the same title. I wish you much success with it!
Thank you for pointing out an important point that speaking authentically can result in risk to a relationship. I have experienced this a number of times in my own life, so I know this to be true. I did not think about this when I hurriedly posted this blog entry,
and I’m grateful you picked this up. I certainly do not want to mislead anyone. I shall edit that sentence on my blog to incorporate this important insight.
Thanks too for directing me to your website which reflects the significant and much needed work that you do within organizations. It’s a pleasure to be connecting with you over the airwaves and I look forward to a future opportunity when we might meet!
With gratitude Deborah
Deborah Rossouw Certified Integral Coach and Speaker
(778)386-5168
Express your Authentic self with clarity, confidence and ease!
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